Elephants
Just a general share, that I felt was needed. I’d like to preface this by saying I do not have all the answers and I do not claim to know what everyone’s experiences are. I speak from my own experience and it is my work in this life to bring my experiences to others in hopes that it will light a fire of resonance for them — to bring them back to themselves, to a place of love. Take what I say, if it resonates, but verify it for yourself. If it does not resonate — it probably wasn’t for you.
It’s 2020 and after the year we have ALL had, it’s time to be calling out the elephants in the room.
You know what I’m talking about. In any shape, size or form — call out the elephants!
As a personal example — let’s say my son falls and cries. In the presence of some people, they will tell him to “be a man” and to “suck it up, you’re okay.” Y’all my son is only 4 years old. In these statements, he is being told to stop having his emotions and move on. What is the elephant in the room here you might be wondering? It’s the narrative that men can’t and shouldn’t have emotions — let alone express them. This narrative is coming from a place of pain, and is being projected onto my son. In this case, I have personally been gently calling out and speaking towards this type of communication and this narrative from a space of love. This might look like asking whomever is speaking to him not to speak to him this way. Or simply stating “it’s okay for him to express his emotions.” This narrative of the masculine always having to “be strong” and strong equating to emotions being less than has played out over and over again for who knows how long. It is an old paradigm. I am here to say, this is where it ends. It ends with me, and my son. It ends with whoever else chooses to see it and allow their children/the men in their lives express their emotions freely. Speaking about these things, and taking NOTICE of what’s happening automatically frees you and frees others who are projecting these things onto younger children, or just others in general. However, to expand on this is another story for another day 😉
How many times have you, as a powerful, sovereign human being, stepped to the side because you didn’t want to stir up the pot and cause trouble, acknowledging something that people commonly don’t acknowledge? How many times have you stayed quiet, because you don’t want someone to be mad at you/lose their relationship?
How many times have you stepped to the side of your own toxic behavior, because you didn’t think it was toxic, and projected it onto someone else? Oh man and THERE is another story for another day as well. Oof.
It. Is. 2020. This year is aaalllll about diving in with those shadow sides, but not only the shadow sides of the self, the shadow sides of others, too.
So if you’re playing it cool on the sidelines and allowing behaviors to occur because you don’t want to offend people who are very clearly not treating you or someone else with respect — I can understand not wanting to cause ripples in the matrix but 2020 is all about shaking things up, clearly.
To add to this, transit Mars retrograde in Aries and transit Pluto moving direct AND transit Saturn — it’s. All. About. Boundaries. And remembering that our strength lies within and that no one, and no thing has any power over us INCLUDING our THOUGHTS.
How does that feel? Releasing yourself of control and others of control — it’s freeing, right? All too often it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking about what could go wrong if the elephants in the room were suddenly called out and now y’all are having a party together. But what could go right? What if you succeed? What if you (god forbid) ENJOY the party? Because at that point, when everything is on the table and everyone is being their true, authentic selves, free of control and free of false narratives and paradigms, there is ease and effortlessness.
Trust me — you, me and anyone else — we are not doing anyone any favors by staying quiet about weird behavior. And there is a way to speak from love and compassion without blame, shame, guilt or ignorance. At the end of the day we’re all human, doing the best that we can with what we have and most humans are not aware of their own toxic behaviors let alone want to take responsibility/be accountable for them. Ignoring inauthenticity is a disservice to the self, to others and thus the collective as a whole and creates separation and division. Separation and division are merely illusions. We are all one collective being manifested into individuals.
And, when I think about things like that, I’d much rather be accountable for my own behaviors and try to help others see when their behavior is toxic. Because I love myself. And if you’re not there yet, that’s okay, there’s still ample love for you.
But it’s about dang time we all stop stepping to the side, and let our own lights shine. Collectively. Where can you shine brighter? Where can you free yourself and free others?
🙏🏻✨
